This post, in contrast, looks at how to accept positive things. Your first reaction might be, "What the...? That's easy. That's what I want." I argue that there are two common barriers to fully accepting positive things:
1) The positive thing occurred and you are already focused on the next goal. It was almost anti-climatic to reach this point and now you want more.
2) The positive thing occurred and you don't believe you deserve it.
To address the former, daily gratitude lists and meditations that return you to the moment help you to recognize when you appreciate what is happening as it is happening. You will become more in tune with the positive from enjoying the salary raise to noting the symphony of bird song just beyond the screen door.
People ask me what to do when they don't believe they deserve something. I reframe the question: this is a lack of acceptance of the positive. There is no reason to qualify whether you deserve it or not. Everyone is on an equal plane: no one is better or worse than someone else. As with suffering due to not accepting the negative, the consequences from discounting the positive only further pain you. When we don't accept the positive, or live in a world of expecting the other shoe to drop**, we often engage in behavior that causes the positive to cease.
As you approach your day today, observe with non-judgmental curiosity how you take in positive and negative instances. Do you brush off a compliment? Do you hesitate to ask for a favor? Do you feel uncomfortable when your partner surprises you with a gift? Do you feel angry when someone cuts you off while driving? Approach your cognitive and emotional reactions with compassion. Consciously reflect on what you want to get on board of: what reflects truth for you. Consider behaving in a different way than you usually do just to see what happens next. Enjoy.
**the source of this idiom is New York apartments with poor insulation. When you could hear a neighbor's shoe thud to the floor, you would be distracted by this until the other shoe dropped.